Is the Human-Canine Bond Unique?

Humans and dogs have had a special bond for thousands of years—we see it in the way dogs work, play, and live with us. Most experts agree that this relationship developed when the wolf, the dog’s ancestor, and human came in contact with each other. Some wolves, for unknown reasons, attached themselves to this strange two-legged species and from that early contact, dogs as we have come to know them evolved.

Dogs Love Us, They Really Love Us

No one disputes the clear bond dogs have with us and there have been many studies that explore this attachment. Some researchers reason that it has to do with the dog’s cognitive abilities, but others believe it has less to do with intelligence and more to do with friendliness and sociability. Some researchers have used the term “hypersociability” to describe this trait in canines.

Gregory Berns, a neuroscientist at Emory University, used magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) to follow what goes on in a dog’s brain during interactions with humans. He found that a dog’s reward center is as active when the dog is praised as when they’re given a hot dog. And we all know how much dogs love hot dogs! In additional research, Dr. Berns demonstrated that some dogs even prefer their owners to food if they’re given the choice. He also found a similarity between the part of a dog’s brain that lights up when they hear their owner’s voice and the same area in our brains that lights up when we’re around someone or something we love… read complete article here.

Boomer Women, Will We All Be Bag Ladies?

I thought it was my private dirty secret, the fear that I would end my days as a bag lady, stockings rolled down around my ankles, sitting on a curb and yelling at passers-by. But according to Lisa Schwarzbaum’s article in the New York Time’s Magazine, a survey by a life insurance company found that nearly half of all American women share that same fear.

I don’t know whether to feel relief in a shared irrational fear or sadness that it’s especially rampant among Baby Boomer women. We are the generation, after all, that was raised on a mixed message: as a female, you can be anything you want. You can grow up to be a doctor, lawyer, Indian chief. However, you don’t really need to prepare for a professional future since you’ll probably be a housewife and mother. I’ve carried around the bag-lady-to-be persona buried deep inside for a long time, although she really started screaming for attention when I got divorced and realized I was one good divorce lawyer away from sleeping in my car. I exaggerate, but you get the point. Based on Schwarzbaum’s recap of Woody Allen’s new movie, Blue Jasmine, I’m considering gathering a coterie of baby boomer women friends to see it together, but we might just run screaming from the theater. Ladies, fess up please–anyone else share this nagging nightmare?

Viet Nam Remembered

Viet Nam Remembered

“The biggest lesson I learned from Vietnam is not to trust [our own] government’s statements. I had no idea until then that you could not really rely on them.”
William Fulbright

35 years ago, America was just starting its “nice little war” in the unknown country of Vietnam. Having learned nothing from the French, our government proceeded to embroil the United States in what may be the most divisive episode of the 20th century.For those interested in taking a close look at those early years, check out Once Upon a Distant War, by William Prochnau. In the New York Times Book Review, Christopher Lehmann-Haupt says Prochnau has “brought the story of that involvement to vividly dramatic life as few previous books have done.” The book concentrates on the young foreign correspondents who brought the war home, especially David Halberstam, Malcolm Brown, Horst Faas, NeilSheehan, Charley Mohr, and Peter Arnett. In telling their story, Prochnau describes the unfolding of what would become both a publicity and policy disaster for the Kennedy administration and for the nation.

Lehmann-Haupt says “Prochnau manages to convey with fresh authority what it was like to be a reporter in Vietnam in those early years, the excitement the experience offered, the danger that it threatened and the ingenuity required to get the story out…Once Upon a Distant War is an important book, a good story that illustrates powerfully the interplay of strong individual characters and faceless historical forces.” We’ve read the book and it lives up to all expectations, not to mention filling in those early years when some us of were young enough to be excused from the nightly news.

There is also a new CD-ROM “The War in Vietnam” on the market, co-produced by The New York Times and CBS News. We haven’t seen it, but it’s apparently filled with hyperlinks featuring photos, video clips, new reports, and analyses. It also has a searchable database of the names and hometowns of veterans as recorded on the Vietnam War Memorial in Washington DC.

Who’s Zoomin’ Who?

It’s been years here and one theme runs on like an old scratchy record-vinyl-(surely you remember vinyl). Gen-Xers hate us. They despise us, loathe us, feeling nothing but contempt for us.

At the risk of ducking rotten tomatoes for the rest of my apparently worthless life, I finally have to ask-why?

We grew up in upwardly mobile families, we had the world on a string. And yet, many (you do remember the March on Washington) of us felt the world could be a better place. Not just for us, mind you—most of us had it pretty good already. We felt discrimination, racial and gender bias were wrong. We felt that the war (you do remember Vietnam) was wrong. We believed that opportunity should not be based on bank balances or last names. We did not want to be the Stepford Generation—molded into our parents’ image. We wanted to have fun (like you), be heard (like you), and make a real difference (not so like you).

The people who educated those of you in your mid-30’s were not us. The people who made policy were not us. The people America elected were not us. And the people who raised you were most certainly not us.

Our dreams may not have come true. Most of us “grew up,” got married, had children, held down jobs. Most of us felt we had not done enough. But maybe we did. When was the last time you saw an African American being sent to the back of the bus? Did you get to play sports in high school or college because of Title IX? Did any of you have to have a back-alley abortion? Has affirmative action provided you with an education or a job? You may not think it’s much—but every generation’s job—yes, job-is to question, to rile things up, to try to make the world better.

We didn’t bitch about the job market, we went to work. Some even worked for almost no money in social services, education, public service. Some of us worked through child-rearing and not necessarily because we wanted to. Some of us have been phased out because we’re too “old”—-apparently experience just doesn’t mean much anymore.

I hope you’ll see, when you’re done bitching about the last dotcom gone down, that sometimes we all have to adjust our dreams. We wanted to make a better world-we did the best we could, and we’re still doing it. Raising our children, working our jobs, living our lives in the best way we know how. Maybe it’s your turn.

 

Luxury Lingerie

I’ve written some pieces for a fabulous lingerie site, OuiHours.com.

Here’s my favorite:

A Man’s Guide to Buying Lingerie

Show her you really know her with our quick cheat sheet.

You’d love to buy her something sexy and luxurious. But choosing delicate undies for her may feel like walking through a minefield: one wrong step and the whole thing blows up in your face.
Yes, you want to get her something perfect, but just the idea that you’re thinking of her is perfection in itself.

Even the most attractive, confident and sexy woman may focus too much on her ‘flaws’ and forget that, to you, she’s the most beautiful woman alive. Props to you for wanting to buy her lingerie and celebrate her gorgeousness. We’re here to help…read complete article here.

 

 

We Are One (and Boy, Are We Cold)

If you missed this afternoon’s Inaugural Celebration–We Are One concert, HBO will be presenting it again this evening. And if you don’t subscribe to HBO, get this–they have opened up access to the channel to all of us for this one event. More details at HBO.

Putting aside jaded musical taste, remnants of cynicism, and the football game, this was a wonderful LIVE show: sincere, entertaining and moving at times. Personal fave moments: Soulful Bettye Lavette and just as soulful Jon Bon Jovi; Pete Seeger doing what he’s been doing for eons–talking the lyrics a beat ahead so that we can all sing along; Renee Fleming looking ab fab singing the crap out of “You’ll Never Walk Alone”; Garth Brooks rousing the audience with–guess… Okay, you can’t guess–“Shout.”

Because of both the place and the date, parallels to the March on Washington were obvious and yet inspiring. Lots of star power speakers made sure we didn’t miss that or any other historical significance. And they did a darn fine job.

The presidential family and guests seemed to be having a grand time, although I can’t imagine they weren’t cold–the girls didn’t even have mittens on. My hands got cold just watching.

Like Grant Park, the audience was thrillingly diverse. Where else will you see a balding boomer standing next to young tween black girls and punksters with what looked to be painful piercings, and Gen-X parents with kids on their shoulders and they’re ALL singing “This Land is Your Land?” and not even ironically.

 

Online Toy Store

This was an online toy store and one of the very first. They asked for product descriptions that were narrative, friendly, and, when possible, in the first person. In this case, it was a true-ish story.

Title: Sleuth Scope

[Aisle copy] Your kids can scope it all out without being seen

[Summary Description] This extendable periscope from Wild Planet is bound to pique your kids’ curiosity. It extends up to two feet with an advanced lens system of 4x magnification and easy-to-use manual focus.

[Age Range] 4and up

[Product Description] We had an unusual experience at our house this spring. A pair of cardinals built a nest in a tall rhododendron bush right outside our window. But, by the time the kids would pull chairs over to watch the progress the adult birds would see them and fly away in fear. The Sleuth Scope caused a collective family brainstorm. By staying below the windowsill and raising the extendable periscope, the kids could watch the cardinals’ progress to their heart’s content. We’re pleased to report that, from nest-building, to egg-laying, to hatching, and—the biggest thrill of all, watching the parents feed the babies, the kids were eye-witnesses to it all. And now that the babies are flown and spring moves into summer, they’ve put the Sleuth Scope to many more uses. Hint to parents: bring it the next time you go to a baseball game– your littlest ones will finally be able to see over the crowd.

More Product Descriptions

It has been my pleasure to write product descriptions for the American Kennel Club. The only snag is that I then want to purchase everything I write about. I have a very lucky dog.

Ball Lovers Pack

With multiple textures and so many different way to play, these tough dog toys are like several toys in one. They’re constructed from canvas, rope and plush so they’re perfect as tug toys, for a game of fetch, as little noisemakers and just to carry around. Choose your (or your dog’s) favorite rascal: coyote, skunk or raccoon and let playtime begin!

Why we like it

Dogs love variety and they’ll get plenty of it with the Ball Lover’s pack. It includes balls that bounce, that float, that squeak and even treat dispensing balls that can be used for interactive puzzle games.

Suitable for most dogs, but not recommended for hard chewers. Always supervise your dog while playing with the toys and if anything comes loose remove the toy immediately.


Nylon Chevron Dog Leash

This eco-friendly dog lead is as stylish as it is useful. It’s offered in a choice of bright colors, ensuring you’ll never lose site of your pup, even in the dark. The lead comes in two sizes and is made from 100% certified recycled plastic bottles, so it’s kind to the environment too.The solid metal D-ring attaches securely to your dog’s collar. It’s machine washable–just toss it in the wash as needed. Pair it with the chevron dog collar.

Why we like it

This is one leash you’ll never lose sight of–the bright colors just pop, even at night. We like that it’s made from recycled materials, so it’s environmentally friendly.


Memory Foam Sofa Pet Bed

Give your dog the gift of sleeping on a cloud with this supportive and plush memory foam dog bed. The outer layer is quilted for extra durability and good looks. The bed is made from eco-friendly and recycled plush materials and memory foam that soothe aching joints, ideal for older or arthritic dogs. And all dogs will love nestling against the soft, yet supportive bolster walls. The Fur Sofa Dog Bed is generously sized and built for your dog’s ultimate comfort. And it’s stylish enough for any home.

Why we like it

If you’ve slept on memory foam, you know how comfortable and supportive it is. It’s a great choice for older or arthritic dogs as well as for a puppy’s growing bones. We like that this plush, comfortable bed is made from recycled and eco-friendly materials, too.


Bernese Mountain Dog Pooch Decor Decorative Pillow

These decorative dog breed pillows are a great way to display your favorite canine anywhere in the house. The lively patterned background highlights an attention-getting representation of breed. And the durable fabric is suitable for both indoors and out.

Why we like it

The eye-catching dog design really pops against the decorative background fabric and is a stylish statement for any house.


From Playtime to Singalongs: 9 Reasons to Love the Bluetick Coonhound

Elvis sang, “You ain’t nothin’ but a hound dog,” but the Bluetick Coonhound is so much more! Easygoing and affectionate at home, he loves his family beyond anything…except maybe the scent of prey. He’s a tireless hunter in the field and thrives on exercise and a job to do. And any Bluetick owner can tell you about his “singing” in that baying, howling voice! Here are nine reasons to love this breed:…
See complete post here.

8 Top Graduation Gift Watches

An online watch retailer used this on their site and for social media. I wrote a series of these.

What to get the guy who has everything? If by “everything’” you mean student loans and a job hunt ahead, choose one of these grown-up watches—he’ll be on time everywhere and look great getting there.

Armani Exchange AX1042 Men’s Miami Black Dial Chronograph Black Silicone Strap Watch ($127)

This handsome heavy chronograph has looks and brains. The combination of stainless steel, black dial, silver accents and rugged black rubber band will look good with anything, from a job interview to an “I-got-the-job” celebration dinner.

  • Rugged silicone band
  • Quartz chronograph movement
  • Date display

Hugo Boss 1512597 Men’s Black Dial Black IP Steel Rubber Strap Chrono Watch ($327)

If your grad is bold, creative and a bit sporty, he’ll love the vivid red hands and hour markers against the black face. The perforated rubber band with red stitching is a solid finishing touch. But looks aren’t everything–check out the chronograph and date display functions.

  • Dual time and date display functions
  • Water resistant to 100 meters
  • Japanese quartz chronograph movement

Citizen Titanium Perpetual Calendar Watch BL5250-02L ($280)

When it’s time to get serious about well…time, you won’t find better than this, with its Eco drive quartz movement that charges in any light. There are lots of cool details, like a perpetual calendar, alarm and tachymeter. Handsome, reliable and solid—just like your grad.

  • Lightweight titanium case
  • Waffle pattern on the dark blue face
  • Rechargeable lithium ion cell—no more batteries!

 

Invicta 1941 Men’s Subaqua Sport Chronograph Gold Plated Steel Blue Dial Watch ($300)

Brawny and beautiful, this watch wins raves for its sharp blue and gold looks, solid weight and precise time keeping. The stainless bezel, case and bracelet and the flame fusion crystal will last for years and years– and stay stylish just as long.

  • Swiss quartz chronograph movement
  • 18k gold ion-plated stainless steel case and bracelet
  • Water-resistant to 100 meters

Festina F16658-5 Men’s Chrono Bike Black Dial Steel Bracelet Quartz Watch ($243)

Not many brands combine Swiss watchmaking technology with sleek Italian design. A perfect choice for the grad who appreciates clean good looks, handy chronograph features and superior quality.

  • Fashionably large face
  • Solid stainless steel case
  • Quartz chronograph movement

Wenger 77059 Men’s Stainless Steel White Dial Chronograph Watch ($278)

What do you expect from the company that brings us Swiss Army Knives? Absolute precision, serious function, and superb workmanship. Designed for search & rescue pilots, but a perfect gift for grads on somewhat less serious missions. And check out the snappy red-tone hands and hour markers.

  • Unidirectional rotating bezel
  • Scratch resistant sapphire crystal
  • Large Arabic numerals

Jorg Gray JG4510 Men’s Quartz Silver Dial Leather Strap Watch ($362)

Tough enough for the Houston Oilers O-line and elegant enough for a president (see President Obama on the cover of Rolling Stone), this US brand combines classic design with state-of-the-art watchmaking. Here’s a watch that says “I can do anything and do it with style.”

  • Italian crocodile leather strap
  • Japanese quartz chronograph movement
  • Brushed stainless steel case

Citizen AT4004-52E Men’s Eco-Drive Two Tone Perpetual Calendar Atomic Black Dial Watch ($446)

With a Citizen watch, you know you’re getting innovative technology combined with great style and this beauty has it all. The Eco-drive movement charges in natural or artificial light and the time is radio controlled by an atomic time signal. Your grad never even has to set it.

  • Perpetual calendar
  • Alarm function
  • Scratch resistant sapphire crystal
  • Chronograph with tachymeter